Bible verse dating

Jesus Christ knows the anxious heart of the uncertain dating Christian (Proverbs 21:1).

And he does not judge: “He will tend his flock like a shepherd; he will gather the lambs in his arms; he will carry them in his bosom, and gently lead those that are with young” (Isaiah ).

Understanding that anxiety is a proper reaction to the unsettled angst of an unfulfilled and covenantally unprotected relationship is the best starting place.

We can say a dating relationship is protected and settled and safe, but it isn’t — no matter what dating philosophy one adheres to, the emotional escalation of dating leads either to a breakup or a marriage.

Even the notion that life beyond dating has no uncertainties — marriage, kids, family — is a delusion.

The risks are higher, the vulnerability deeper, and the losses greater.

This is then often backed up by a flurry of other comments: interested in the gospel and told me that my faith is something he/she finds really attractive and wouldn’t want to change at all.

That tension was not meant to be immediately resolved.We’re betting a portion of our heart, without knowing how they will respond. More than that, when sinful people are put in a place of danger, they’re more prone to play God.We are most prone to try and seize control of the situation — of hearts, of circumstances, or of emotions, all in self-defensive ways that are tragically self-defeating. In self-perpetuating irony, magnifying all of the uncertainty and anxiety, we just end up multiplying our own pain and destroying the relationship.There is only one honest thing to say when the weight of dating uncertainty weighs heavy: “We don’t know.” We must confess that, to the experience of besetting and anxious uncertainty in dating, there isn’t an answer or at least not a concrete and immediate answer.Maybe the whole point of dating — and the fact that Scripture says so little about it — is that we don’t know what we’re doing, we can’t do it well (alone), and it isn’t sustainable.

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